My people, my people, how una dey? How body? Hope say una dey kampe! I been think say I no get part 2 on top this matter but as e be like this, part 2 don land brekete! Lol!! Okay let’s get serious! This pidgin thing is not for me at all. Lol. 

I was watching something on YouTube the other day and I was surprised to know that people still think this way. I was and I still am wowed.

Caesarean section (CS) is not a taboo. I feel the need to say it again, CS is not a taboo! IVF is not a taboo! Surrogacy no be taboo!

How do you open your mouth and ask someone ‘na natural birth or na artificial birth?’ Like what?! Or ‘I know you are a lazy girl, so that is why you did CS.’ ‘The job no complete, she no push am.’ Sadly, a lot of people speak in the nonsense regularly. And we condone a lot of the nonsense as well. We need to keep this filterless people in check regularly.

Caesarean section, C-section, or Caesarean birth is the surgical delivery of a baby through a cut (incision) made in the mother’s abdomen and uterus. IVF is a medical procedure whereby an egg is fertilized by sperm in a test tube or elsewhere outside the body. Surrogacy is an arrangement, often supported by a legal agreement, whereby a woman agrees to bear a child for another person or persons, who will become the child’s parent after birth.

I think we should be thankful to God that there are multiple ways a woman can have a child rather than tearing people down. Do you know what people are going through? Some women don’t have a uterus and hence can’t carry a baby. Some women have an illness that will not permit them to have a normal vaginal delivery. And some don’t just want a vaginal birth, they have elective c-sections, and guess what? It is their choice to make!

It is completely okay to want to have a natural birth, to want to give birth like a Hebrew woman, that’s fantastic! It is in no one’s place however, to embarrass people or make other women feel less because of their birthing options. 

A child is brought into this world and that is valid. Surrogate baby or CS baby is not written on the child’s forehead. There is too much stigma attached to what there should be exposure to. People need to get informed! Congratulate new parents; it is not your business to know what kind of birth they had. That the child is here and healthy is what you should care about. Do not even get me started on the ones that want to know the sex of the child before they tell you congratulations or the ones that stress you in your period of wait.  

Honestly, the journey to parenthood can be different for everybody. Spend more time spreading love rather dabbling into things you have zero knowledge about.

Stay blessed people!

AFOMA & Queen N.